Disclosure: SpicySwingers publishes this blog and is a platform you might migrate to. The steps below apply whichever platform you choose.
You don't have to choose between them
The single most useful thing to know before starting: migrating doesn't mean deleting your FabSwingers profile. Almost nobody who moves platforms does a clean break. The realistic version is running both for a transition period, with your attention and new activity gradually shifting to wherever serves you better. Keep your Fab profile live for the reach and the contacts you already have; build the new one properly alongside it.
Step one: export what matters to you
FabSwingers doesn't offer a formal data export, so do this manually. Save the photos you want to keep, copy your bio text as a starting draft, and note down any contacts you'd want to bring across, with their consent, once you've explained you're expanding onto a new platform.
Step two: build the new profile properly, not as an afterthought
A half-completed profile on a new platform reads as a tourist account and gets treated accordingly. Write your bio fresh rather than pasting the old one verbatim, since different platforms have different conventions. Fill in every field the platform offers. Add photos to both public and private albums as available.
Step three: get verified immediately
This is the highest-leverage single action on a new platform. If the platform offers video verification, do it before sending a single message. A verified badge on day one changes how your messages land completely; an unverified new account messaging established members reads exactly like every fake account ever created.
Step four: mention your history, briefly
Referencing that you're an established couple in the scene, without leading with a complaint about the platform you're leaving, is normal and useful. "Long-time on the scene, new here" reads well. "Left Fab because it's rubbish" reads as someone bringing baggage. Offering an early video call does the same trust-building work your old platform's verifications used to do.
Step five: rebuild community presence, not just a profile
Use chat rooms, forums, or event RSVPs where available. Being visible in community spaces before messaging people directly establishes you as a genuine participant rather than a cold approach. If you've met other couples from the scene who are also active on the new platform, reconnecting there rebuilds your social web faster than starting from strangers.
What to actually expect timeline-wise
With a complete profile, immediate verification, and genuine community participation, most couples report real conversations within days and first meetings within a few weeks on a new platform. The years your old profile took to build up its reputation took that long because nobody was doing this deliberately. A proper migration compresses most of it.
When to actually delete the old profile
Usually: not yet, or not at all. Keep it live as long as it's still bringing you genuine contacts, and only wind it down once your new platform is clearly doing more of the work. There's no prize for a clean break, and the reach cost of leaving Fab entirely is real.
SpicySwingers is a straightforward place to build your second profile: free during launch, video verification on day one. Create your free profile.